Article Surfing Archive

Last year, I ventured out into the world and started my own marketing and executive development company. I left behind a talented team, a desirable position and a steady paycheck from a highly acclaimed corporation that offers more benefits than I can now remember.

On May 1, 2006, the first Monday after my last day of corporate life, I sat at my desk in my home office and wondered, *what now*? After busying myself for years in positions where I chose to rarely work less than 50 hours a week and skipped more vacations than I took, it was now completely up to me. The house had never been so quiet.

I*d been in the business world for over 20 years helping build and market other's businesses, but this was different. On that first day, I felt very alone. Having been someone who disliked asking for help or feeling vulnerable, it was a scary day.

Once on my path, I connected with some of the most supportive, intelligent, and resourceful people I have ever known. Some were people I*d known for years and was fortunate to have in my life, while others were newer friends. By widening my community and network, I was privileged to add or strengthen friendships with people of impressive character, talent, intelligence and generosity of spirit. As my circle grew, so did my confidence. I felt stronger and able to take on any challenge. I was amazed by and grateful for their gracious support and committed to *paying it forward* by returning the same kind of caring support, friendship and resourcefulness to others.

Those around us who lift us up, share their stories and resources, have honest but constructive *reality checks* with us when we need it, are in our corner with no agenda, make us laugh and hold our confidences are to be treasured. There is plenty for everyone and no need to push others down, judge them or pass along fear to feed our egos when we can raise them up, grow and succeed together while having a whole lot of fun in the process. In a world where many of us come from a place of lack, ego or fear, it is a blessing to have these safe havens to go to for friendship, wisdom, support and confidentiality.

Whether you are a parent or have no children, are married or single, working for others or yourself, or managing a household, you are not alone if you reach out. It is your choice. We all have so much in common and a great deal to contribute. We*ve had similar fears, challenges, questions and stumbles on our journey, so why not share our time, resources and stories so we can learn from one another?

Take a chance. Grow your own community a little bit each day. Reach out to someone by asking for advice or lending your support. *Pay it forward* as a thank-you to someone who helped you on your journey when you needed it. You'll be glad you did. When we take the time to raise each other up, the possibilities for all of us expand and we*re the better for it.

I*m grateful to be part of this community and am grateful for my ever-expanding community of dear friends, colleagues and adopted family.