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Before I started to walk the path I am walking today, I had certain ideas about what Power is.

My definition of Power was: being measured by the amount of money I had. After all in today's world we are generally measured by our place in society and by the people that we know.

Power to me was the ability to control everything around me and even to manipulate people or situations for personal gain.

I had this strong urge to be in control of practically everything in my life. Suddenly occurring situations at work always needed to be reported to me, because I had the feeling that I could handle such situations much better than any other person. It used to be really difficult for me to delegate certain tasks and I did not even notice that I started to talk to people in such a way that things were always done the way I wanted them to be done. Even if that meant that I had to make certain promises or keep them happy for a while. As long as I was sure that things happened my way.

The same happened in my earlier relationships. It was me who decided what happened, what we were going to do, when we were going to do it and how. In some situations I even threatened my partner to walk out of the relationship if certain things would not happen the way I wanted.

Power to me was domination.

My mentor Christopher Beaver (Telluride-CO) taught me to look at how I used power for my personal intentions and he made me ask myself:

Did my approach to Power serve the whole?

He made me see that our minds contain so many different images of what Power looks like and how it acts.

We commonly see Power as being capable of abuse, domination and destruction, versus healing and creation.

Negative displays of Power have become images that we integrated into our consciousness and we are trying to fulfil or avoid them.

It is here that we have to make a shift.

- It is not who we know, it is how well we know ourselves that will take us where we want to be in our lives.

And in my opinion, as far as that goes, this simple statement is an act of Power.

- It forces us to find the means of creating our own happiness from within, rather than from an external place or source, so we become the centre, instead of us placing the centre upon anything else.

I hope you have enjoyed this article and that you realize that these self motivation tips are the key to growth. Therefore I recommend you to have a good and conscious look at how you are presently functioning in your life and if necessary do some self motivation exercise in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.