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WHAT IS ADD COACHING ALL ABOUT?

STRATEGIES ....SUPPORT .....ACCOUNTABILITY ....STRUCTURE... SUCCESS

ADD coaching is a non-judgmental, collaborative partnership focused on action, accountability and measurable results. It's not about fixing what is wrong but rather finding what is right and building on it. Together we fashion straight forward solutions to complex problems and bridge the frustrating gap between ability and performance.

As coaches, we begin by identifying the real challenges and obstacles that are frustrating you and then determine where you are now, where you want to go and how you're going to get there. Next we get really clear on the big picture as well as the individual things that are creating it so that we can design your vision for what success will look like. Once we do this we break it down into concrete goals and strategies for getting there; reducing each goal to manageable parts, to smallest possible action / next steps. After that we set up clearly defined ongoing systems for action, accountability, communication and results.

Curiously, it is counterintuitive and always astounding to my clients when they experience the process of breaking big overwhelming goals down to the smallest actionable step in order to build back up again. There is often resistance, incredulity and a feeling that this is ridiculous! I need to get this done now! However, if you are motivated to change and willing to suspend your disbelief and do the often frustrating and tedious work, you'll be amazed by the results before you are even half way through

ADULT ADD

ADD is an 'equal opportunity employer'. It doesn't discriminate.

My clients have run the gamut from CEO's of global companies, bankers who need communication strategies in order to succeed, underemployed writers, lawyers in prominent positions, stay at home Moms balancing massive schedules, unemployable MBA's, Dean's list college students dropping out, prominent doctors at famous hospitals and school principles. You get the idea. We are smart, successful people who have been plagued with chronic, textbook issues; universally seeking relief in order to have optimal functioning by installing external structures and timeframes.

ADD is a neurobiological disorder/disability. It is not a moral issue but rather about brain wiring and body chemistry. This is a critical distinction!

The diagnosis in adults is different than the stigma of kids in that the physical aggression gradually becomes more mental hyperactivity in adults. As adults, what we see is the that neurobiological differences in the brain are causing difficulties in the executive functions of planning, prioritizing, decision making, organizing and time management. Hyperactivity, on the go kids, might be observed as restlessness whereas it is observed in adults as lack of focus and constant fidgeting. Impulsivity, hurting themselves physically ( kids)might translate to saying the wrong things at the wrong time. Inattention, not completing homework translates to difficulty concentrating at work and finishing projects and tasks.

So many of us struggle with the notion that we 'should' be able to do this or that.

We look around at what everybody else seemingly does so simply. We forget that we are physiologically different from our family, friends and colleagues who don't have our challenges. Once we truly accept this fact, the paradox is that we begin to be able to do so many of the things that we couldn't because we didn't know how.

THE AMAZING SIDE

Many ADDers are creative, productive, energetic, highly intuitive people in all fields. It can be exasperating to listen to us talk sometimes. We are a frustrating lot as we often sound vague and ramble on. Curiously, it is because we have a 'feel' for things, a way of seeing right into the heart of matters while others have to reason their way along methodically. This is the person who can't explain how he thought of the solution or where the idea came from but all he can say is that he just knew it, he could feel it. We feel a LOT. These are the CEO's, the inventors, the Einsteins of the world. In places where many are blind, we often see the light or at least feel the light and can produce answers apparently out of the dark.

SOME OF THE CHALLENGES ADD ADULTS ROUTINELY FACE

* Tendency to procrastinate and avoid that are beginning to cause real problems
* Perfectionism- always running from fears of inadequacy
* Consistent trouble following through on great ideas despite the best intentions
* Struggling to complete one thing before starting the next'.or sometimes even get started at all
* Feeling restless and impatient, like you just can't seem to relax
* Achieving below potential
* consistent inconsistency
* Financial disarray
* Thwarted relationships or careers
* Impulsivity: constant interrupting, going in a zillion directions simultaneously
* Low self esteem
* Serious organizational /time management issues; chronic clutter
* Chronic boredom
* Very bright, articulate, accomplished
* Anxiety /Depression
* Tendency to overreact and live in extremes

WHAT DOES COACHING PROVIDE FOR THE ADD ADULT?

Making a difference in people's lives. Watching the lights come back on where there has been darkness and shame for so long. I often like to think of it as a treasure hunt; digging up the gifts that have been buried for so long. As objective observers, champions and guides, we non-judgmentally stretch our clients beyond their comfort zones always shining the light on places that have been in darkness for so long.

From a practical standpoint, coaching provides the external structure and support to change behavior, monitor progress and create accountability. We do this working in a non-judgmental partnership learning techniques of time management, planning, follow through and organizational systems for daily living and manageability. It might be bill paying, emptying the boxes that are cluttering your apartment, paying taxes that are seven years behind or getting the perfect job finally. Coaching gets you on track and keeps you there..

You will learn how to be kinder to yourself and move ahead into lives beyond your wildest dreams as you develop new habits for sustaining success.

It's that simple: A ton of potential that's taking you nowhere, transformed into focus, action and extraordinary results.