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If you're not getting what your want out of life, it's not because you have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), you're a bad person, you don't have anything to offer the rest of the world, any learning disability, background, or how much money you have. It's all whether or not you can communicate what's on your mind in an effective way.

Where I'm from, people don't generally walk around smiling and hugging you when they first meet you. What I found was that when I said, 'How's it going?' almost all the time, people would say, 'Not bad.'

So, one dull, drab, overcast day, while considering ADD and how it affects communication, I said, 'Okay, I'm going to totally mess with people. Every single time someone asks me how I'm doing, I'll look them straight in the eye, smile, and say, 'I'm doing awesome!" This was before I made much money. I didn't say, "I have ADD, I'm living on Ramen Noodles and grilled cheese sandwiches, and I don't know how I'm going to pay rent." I said, "I'm doing awesome! Things are phenomenal!'

Part of the experiment was to see how it affected my own mindset. I was learning about internal and external communication, too, because ADD sometimes makes it hard to communicate effectively.

So, they would say, 'Hi. How are you doing?' and I'd say, 'I'm doing awesome!' and smile.

The first thing that happens is: they smile! Why? Because everyone can identify with 'doing awesome.' It's like, 'I just won the lottery. I'm doing great!'

After a couple of months I'd walk down the street and people would know what was coming and would always be like, 'Man, how is Tellman always doing awesome?' What happens is that you leave a strong imprint in someone's mind, especially a positive one, and that's the last thought you leave with them.

Use your ADD to focus your behavior this way, and after repeating, "I'm Awesome!" the next time people see you, their immediate feeling is that experience of feeling awesome, of feeling absolutely amazing.

To this day when I see people that I'm friends with and we have this interaction, it's always, 'I'm doing awesome!' and 'I'm doing awesome!' It's a lift for both people. And it's a great way for people with ADD to improve their skills.

In fact, this is one of the most powerful and simple ADD exercises you can possibly do, and it will be really good for you, if you have ADD and find it hard to communicate easily. But, you have to put some enthusiasm behind it. You also can't just slump over and walk down the street shuffling your feet, and dress like a slob and say, 'I'm doing awesome!' or be distracted, as those with ADD can be, mean it! Dress like today is the day that you get to choose what your entire life is going to be like.