Sometimes I hear the words, "if they're really meant to be..." and I would want to barf or do whatever uncharacteristically unhumorously evil thing a cynic like me would do.
If they're really meant to be-- is just like saying, "whatever fate or destiny decides or say so... goes."
That is crap, in my opinion.
Why oh why the heck do you submit yourselves into the command of some invisible, uncontrollable force that's powered by mere chance?!
Thus, implying that whatever good or bad happens in our life-- is not our doing...?
We're DESIGNED, not DESTINED-- and though some may not see a significant difference between the two words... they don't mean the same thing...