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Single parents often worry that their children will somehow be damaged from living in a single parent family. While a single parent family may not be the ideal situation for raising children, many two-parent families are also less than desirable. Kids can actually benefit from living in a single parent family.

Results of studies have indicated that a home filled with conflict is the least desirable home environment for children. When the child's prior two-parent household included frequent fighting and discord between the adults, the child can benefit from living in a one-parent home provided that the conflict is stopped. A parent who is no longer devoting time to warring with a partner may have more energy to give to the kids. Children observe adult relationships and usually apply what they have learned to their own relationships as adults. By residing with only one parent, the child may actually have a chance to observe healthier adult relationships.

Children learn valuable lessons from dealing with hard times and having different lifestyle from many of their peers Your family may not represent the stereotypical American family, but there can still be lots of love and fun in your home.

Living in two homes can actually be a plus for your kids. They will get to be around other adults who have different philosophies and living habits. Even if your co-parent's living situation isn't ideal, you kids will be able to compare both parent's homes and decide on what model or pieces of each lifestyle model works for them when they reach adulthood.

Often, a child with parents who live apart will gain a stepparent or two. Your child's extended family will then be even larger, giving her more chances to develop meaningful relationships with caring adults. Your kids may even get exposure to new ideas or experiences that could ultimately lead to a career or hobby for your child.

Out of necessity, children who live in a single parent home become independent faster than their peers. The lone parent juggles many activities and has to earn a living, too. So, the kids have to learn how to fend for themselves on occasion such as helping with chores or at least, how to run the microwave. Children who are raised in two-parent homes, especially if there is a stay-at-home mother, often don't get as many opportunities to learn about managing a home. And, your kids get the added lesson that they need to be able to take care of themselves, since romantic relationships can break up, and they may find themselves on their own.

A favorite benefit of many kids from single parent families is that they often get two or more celebrations for each holiday. They may get two sets of gifts at Christmas, often getting more stuff than they would have if the parents were together. Two Easter baskets, valentine's gifts, etc., are also enjoyed by many of these children.

Homes with two parents can be advantageous for children. But, homes with a single parent also offer some benefits to the kids. When your kids complain about splitting time between households, be sure to emphasize some of the benefits that they get, too, while you commiserate with them about not being able to be with both parents at once. Any family can be successful as long as there is love and consistent discipline, and your children will receive the many advantages of single parenting.