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One day, a wise teacher asked his students, "Why is at the time someone angry, he will speak loudly and even shout?" One of the students, after thinking quiet long, raised his hand and then answered, "Because at that time he has lost his patience; that's why he shouts."

The teacher asked again, "Just at that moment, the person he speaks to is in front of him. Why should he shout? Can't he speak softly?" Most of the students gave the answers, which in their consideration were correct. However, there was no delightful answer.

The teacher then said, "When there are two people in an angry situation, the distance between their hearts becomes so far although physically they are close. Therefore, they have to shout to reach the quite far distance. The strange thing is the louder they shout the angrier they are. In that case, the distance of their hearts is automatically further. That's why, they then have to shout louder and louder again."

Next, the teacher asked, "Contrary, what will happen if there are two people who fall in love each other? They never shout. Whenever they speak, their voices are so soft and gentle. No matter how soft the voices are, both of them can hear each other so clearly. Why is that?" the teacher asked his student again while watching at his students.

They were seen to think very deeply, but none of them have the courage to give the answer. The teacher explained, "Because their hearts are so close, their hearts have no distance. Until at last there is no single word need to be said. One look is quite enough for them to understand on what they want to say."

The teacher still continued, "When you are angry, don't let your heart create any distance. At that time, don't say any words, which possibly invite distance between your hearts. As possible as you can, keep in silent is the wise thing to do, because time will help you to hold your anger."

Patience is the pearl of life that we must have. As we face other person who is emotional, we need patience. Moreover, when we are offended, angry, and emotional, we also need a brake, that is patience. Patience needs mature mentality in order to hold and control our attitude, so that we are not fallen down into irrational act that loses us.
To reach the real success, we must have patience. Without patience, we will be easily trapped into negative communication and hard to create a nice social relationship.